Horny Hornets

Horny Hornets: Ask the cutie before you touch the booty

By Leon Thompson

With a couple weeks left in the semester, and the weather getting nice, I know everyone is getting excited for Apple Blossom. Everyone is going out and having fun again, which means parties, fun in the sun, and, of course, sex. All jokes aside, let’s have a grown up talk about consent and why it’s the sexiest thing to do this season.

 Many Shenandoah students believe that people engage in no consent behaviors just because of selfish, lustful needs to please themselves. First and foremost, it should not be a question. We still have to have a New Student 411 Session every year for incoming freshman that starts the conversation about consent from the beginning. This needs to continue throughout our college years.

  No matter who you engage with, whether they are your bf/gf, FWB, or have hooked up before, you are not obligated to have sex with anyone. Even in scenarios where you may be flirting with someone you just met, that does not warrant an opportunity to get with them. Consent needs to be a verbal cue.

Or does it? Studies have found that 61 percent of men get their cues of consent from body language. When asked, men on campus surmised consent can be given by physical cues. The most common used in example being a very assertive grabbing of private areas and spicy looks.

Surprisingly, many women reported to not giving physical cues at all. In fact, only 10 percent of women reported giving actual consent with their body language.

It’s a thin line into what can be seen as consent or not. It could be easy to slip into the rape spectrum if you aren’t careful.

What if the person is drunk or high, or even if you are intoxicated and they aren’t? In most cases, students reported that it would depend on the situation. On campus, more guys than women wouldn’t feel violated if someone sober had sex with them while they were intoxicated.

This leads to the stereotype that men can’t be raped because they would willingly want it, but that’s not true. Though many believe men can’t be sexually assaulted, men on campus voiced the opinion that they can. The reality of the world is men are raped – approximately 2.87 million have been. From 1995-2010, 9 percent of sexual assault or rape victims were men. You also have to take into account the amount of men who aren’t actually stepping up and speaking on the subject, due to the hits to their masculinity.

 The purpose of this article isn’t to make anyone be scared and looking over their shoulders during Apple Blossom. We all want to go out and have fun during our favorite time of year, just remember to be careful and accept (nor make) offers for sex while intoxicated. They say that most rapists are people you know, and you don’t want to end up the next one all because of a miscommunication on consent. Consent is the sexiest thing you can give or get this Apple Blossom.

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