Horny Hornets

Horny Hornets: Stop Slut Shaming

By Rachel Levy

You’re a slut if you do, a prude if you don’t: that’s how the saying goes. But why do girls need to be either?

Wikipedia defines a slut as someone who has a lot of sexual partners. The word “slut” was first used back in the 14th century to describe the looks of men, but somehow it has changed to a refer to a girl, and, instead of referring to appearance, it now refers to sex life.

Our campus’s definition fit the typical description. The same words were thrown around carelessly by several students: promiscuous, sleeps around, a lot of sex, body count, attention seeking, no or different morals, women. One girl even said that you’re a slut if “you cheat on your boyfriend.” Another definition given by a guy was that a slut is a “homie hopper,” a girl who sleeps with her ex-boyfriend’s best friend when the relationship doesn’t work out. These people didn’t care how many people a girl has slept with, just who she slept with.

Overall, we all seem to have the same negative image in mind when asked to define “slut.” Why is this? And why does the term come with such negative connotations?

One reason is girls themselves. On campus, girls slut-shame much more than guys.

Most girls talked to admitted to slut shaming other girls, while many guys said they don’t or, at least, not to a girls face. Guys also have a slightly different version of the word: many men asked on campus started off with “a male or female” (one guy noted that “guys can be sluts too”), while nearly all girls would start off with “a girl.”

Many girls also said that “sluts” are attention seeking, but by calling her a slut, you give her the attention she wants. And if you need to call another girl a slut for sleeping with someone, maybe you’re just jealous of them and wish you could get that attention.

We always complain about the double standard for women, namingly, getting shamed for sex, while boys get high five for who they “tapped” the night before. But women need to realize that if we stopped shaming each other, a lot of it would go away.

We’re all in college having sex, the only difference is some are in a relationship and some are not. Wake up call here: sex is fun that everyone enjoys, but not everyone enjoys a relationship.

Everyone’s sex life is their own. We shouldn’t judge someone based on the perceived number of sexual partners they’ve had. Their sex life has nothing to do with anyone else except the people they are having sex with, and as long as it is safe and consensual, they can have all the sex their little heart desires. People, especially college students, need to stop shaming others and let them live the life they want.

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